In Memory of Alicia Parlette And Shannon Szameitat

By Monique

A few weeks ago I was on my facebook page and I noticed a page suggestion with a photograph that looked very familiar to me, it was a photograph of a girl named Alicia who was a bridesmaid at a wedding I photographed in Reno in 2005. I clicked on the page out of curiosity, and learned that she was dying of a rare form of cancer, alveolar soft part sarcoma, and that she had weeks to live. Alicia died yesterday.

When she was diagnosed in 2005, she had just started a job at the San Francisco Chronicle as a copy editor when she got the bad news from her doctor. She was 23. I had no idea about her situation when I photographed her friend’s wedding in August of 05, she looked and acted just like any normal young bridesmaid that I have photographed a hundred times … happy, beautiful, and sharing the fun experiences of her friend’s wedding.

She wrote about her experiences with cancer in a series in the San Francisco Chronicle called Alicia’s Story. I have been reading it over the past few weeks and she was a talented writer. I highly, highly recommend taking some time to read it. I don’t know why her story has consumed me in the way that it has, maybe because she was a journalism student like myself, I don’t know. I cried today reading her obituary, reading about how she and her boyfriend had a private commitment ceremony recently at the hospital, he gave her the wedding ring worn by his grandmother and mother.

And I don’t really know why I am sharing this story on our blog, it is certainly a departure from the happy, happy, joy, joy weddings we post. But I guess I wanted to share some of the images I captured of Alicia at that wedding I did 5 years ago. The bride recently told me that there was this one image of Alicia that I captured in particular, the one that originally caught my eye on her facebook page, that she just loved and said it was probably her favorite photograph taken at her wedding. It is the last photograph shown below. The same photograph was also used in today’s San Francisco Chronicle for her obituary. It is a humbling reminder to me that my chosen job as a photographer helps people build their family histories. I am thankful that many of my images help people cherish their memories of each other. I truly feel blessed to be entrusted with documenting people’s lives, and I am happy that Alicia and her family and friends have the images I captured of her.

Edited by Monique on April 23, 2016, six years after this was published: I was so very sorry to hear that Shannon, the bride pictured below, also died last fall after a 5 year battle with melanoma cancer. How unfair this life can be! Shannon was one of the sweetest brides I have ever had the honor to work with. She also wrote about her journey on her blog, and you can read it here: Sunshine and Shadows.

Alicia, far left, the maid of honor at her friend Shannon’s wedding in 2005.


Your email is never published or shared. Required fields are marked *

  • JacquelineApril 23, 2010 - 9:08 pm

    I’m truly sorry to hear that Alicia passed. I followed her story on sfgate and just recently read that she was in hospice. Beautiful photos Monique. I’m sure that she cherished them.

  • Maria J BuenaventuraApril 29, 2010 - 4:10 pm

    How beautiful pictures are these ones! I am glad she is in heaven, without pain and suffering.

    Godspeed Alicia!

  • EvelynFebruary 17, 2012 - 5:15 pm

    I found Alicia’s Story by reading a blog of a Journalist who worked at the Orlando Sentinel in Orlando, Florida where I work. His name was Sean Holton. He battled brain cancer and also past away in Nov. 29th, 2011. He named his blog Same Time Tomorrow.
    When I went to check on her story I just couldn’t stop reading it. She was a very brave and strong young lady. Only God can give peace in midst of the storm. I know in my heart that she is in heaven in a perfect body. No more pain, no more sorrow… RIP Alicia.:o)

  • EvelynFebruary 17, 2012 - 5:16 pm

    By the way Monique your pictures are wonderful.:o)